BREATHE TO DE-ESCALATE
persistent stress in our daily lives can overwhelm our brain's capacity to distinguish existential peril from ordinary stressors. when our brain's most primal response fight or flight becomes its default setting it can trigger dangerous and disproportionate reactivity.
breathing deeply and purposefully through moments of panic anxiety and fear can allow us the space to assess the validity of our response and fine-tune it. breathing with intention can bring us back to neutral and disrupt an unsustainable and unhealthy habit loop.
basic diaphragmatic breathing
engage your diaphragm
shallow breathing lies at the heart our fight or flight response. learning to regulate our breathing is crucial to finding solid ground in moments of distress. by activating our parasympathetic system deep diaphragmatic breathing can restore calm.
before you take your first breath
release all breath through your nostrils. place your hands horizontally along your lowest ribs to center yourself. you can also place one hand on your heart and one on your belly to begin if that feels more intuitive to you.
inhale deeply through your nose
take a full deep breath through your nose. notice you ribs expand sideways as your diaphragm engages and pushes against your rib cage. inhale for 4 counts to register the sensation of expansion.
hold and observe the stillpoint
for a count of 2 breaths observe the in between space between your inhale and exhale... this is your still point... the moment of non-doing and just being and breathing.
exhale slowly through your mouth
release your breath slowly and steadily for a count of 6 and feel your ribs compress and your diaphragm disengage. this is one breath.
repeat the process
breathe deeply 10 times to establish a rhythm. practice frequently during the day to avoid shallow breathing for more calm and focus.
use as often as needed
you now have a tool that is available to you anytime you may need to culltivate attention or de-escalate.
there are people who say mindfulness is just one thing- breathing in and breathing out. they are right.
thich nhat hanh, buddhist zen master
EXPAND YOUR PRACTICE
breathing in an articulated and practiced pattern can help us de-escalate quickly. practice the breathing techniques below so you can access them to reign in stress and reactivity whenever and wherever they are triggered.
10 BREATHS PRACTICE
it takes 30 seconds to create a new synapse in the brain and replace a habitual and negative thought trajectory with a positive and constructive one. 10 breaths is a buddhist practice that can help us find meaning and joy hiding in plain sight.
focus on just one thing
bring your attention to a single object. it could be as simple as a leaf or a dandelion in your path.
give it ten breaths
give the object of your choosing your undivided focus. breathe in a calm and unforced manner. each in-breath and out-breath taken together count as one complete breath. if you lose focus during the practice begin again. hold this object in awareness, just noticing and being fully present for it in the moment.
build a new synapse
choose to create a new neural pathway of focused and joyful attention. rather than be held hostage by anxiety and fear, harness the attitudes of spaciousness and inquiry by anchoring your attention to the present moment.
use it for problem-solving
next time you are faced with an intractable problem, give it 10 breaths so you can reframe your response to it in a more constructive way.